Meet exotic people. And kill them. Even for women!
5280 magazine is the cool magazine for Denverites. Which, if you believe our press clippings, is among the coolest cities in the nation.
The magazine’s usual beats are Colorado’s pricey ski resorts. The latest and greatest on Denver’s foodie scene. All things culture. The groovy health trends. The best Colorado workouts (and those are different from the best Iowa workouts how?).
But, because I tend to come down on the cranky, old curmudgeon side, I usually don’t pay much attention to the publication when I see it in the checkout line.
But the November cover picture made me take a second look. An attractive woman, in full battle rattle, her hair pulled back in a severe bun, her helmet tucked under her arm. The headline? “On The Front Line: Embedded With American Female Combat Soldiers In Afghanistan.” And, even before I’d read the first line of the article, I picked up a copy.
Why we fight. Who knows?
9/11. Does anyone besides me have trouble remembering the third two numbers in that now talismanic combination of digits? They’re 01. Or, to put it in plain English: September 11, 2001. That’s nearly 20 years ago.
And still we fight on in Afghanistan. The human toll is staggering. Over 2,300 dead U.S. soldiers. (And, as of a few of days ago, 3 more.) More than 20,000 maimed and wounded. Countless others dead by suicide as a result of the mental trauma of war. Who knows how many families shattered by repeated deployments.
And dare I mention the toll on the Afghan people? While estimates vary in the fog of war, the number of killed or wounded Afghanis ranges in the hundreds of thousands. And we wonder why so many Afghans have made common cause with the Taliban?
Making war cool
So now 5280 puts out a puff piece that makes this conflict look like the latest front in a noble struggle for equal rights for women. Rather than a ruinous war that will, at some point, inevitably result in this country finally admitting that the conflict can’t be won. And, like the Soviets once did, coming to our senses and leaving.
It’s astonishing that in this lengthy article there is only the briefest mention of what these women, who serve in an artillery unit, actually do: [Her] “greater concern had less to do with gender and more to do with the actual job she was carrying out: She was killing people.” This particular woman reconciled herself to this grim reality with the thought that, “If I didn’t like the idea of killing people I shouldn’t have joined the Army-because that’s what the Army does.”
So, join the Army and grow to like killing people?
Bleeding Air Force blue
While writing this post, I happened to meet a young woman named Mariah. Twenty seven years old, her appearance reminded me of the woman on the cover of 5280: striking red hair pulled back in a severe bun. But while she also shared the military background, the rest of her story is anything but cool.
A self described “Air Force brat,” her dad put in 30 years in the service. While she was still an infant, the family was transferred to Buckley airbase in Aurora, where she grew up.
Her dad was deployed repeatedly. “Which,” according to Mariah, “was pretty negative; my mom had severe abandonment issues. However,” she continued, “it was a also a benefit because there was no abuse at home while dad was gone.” Domestic violence, as is well known, is a risk of multiple deployments. So is divorce; Mariah’s parents separated after 30 years of marriage.
To escape an intolerable home life, Mariah enlisted in the Air National Guard after high school; the Guard provided her with the financial resources to make the break.
But as her LinkedIn profile reveals, it’s been anything but a smooth flight. While she’s earned an I.T. degree and become an articulate writer, she’s also flirted with suicide. And had a run-in with the law. Which resulted in a seven month jail sentence; something to do with sending an ugly email to a counselor that violated a restraining order. Which, in turn, caused her to lose the V.A. benefits she’d been awarded as a result of the Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI) she says she suffered at her father’s hands. An appeal’s pending, but with the V.A.’s enormous claims backlog, who knows how long it’ll be before her case is resolved?
Darkness, darkness, be my pillow
And now, with winter closing in, homelessness. How she manages is hard to fathom. Crashing on friends’ couches some nights. Sleeping in her car others.
I’ve suggested several possible resources in the Christian community with which I’m familiar. Also some in the secular world that I became acquainted with during my service in the legislature. Do they have room for her? Has she applied to get in? I’m not sure. At one point, she described the shelters with which she’s familiar as “sketchy.” That’s easy to believe.
Go west, young woman. Go midwest
She expressed her determination to move to the midwest, where the cost of living is lower. Given Denver’s fevered economy, it’s not difficult to imagine that a place like Des Moines would be cheaper. But I had to ask: “Does it really make sense to go to an entirely strange city to start over?” She had a ready answer: “I can’t take the chance of running into my dad. And,” she says, “the criminal justice system in that part of the country tends to be more lenient than it is here.”
So, just another chapter in an old American story? The one about those who are sufficiently adventurous (or sufficiently desperate), to pack up your troubles in your old kit bag and smile, smile, smile.
Or something more sinister? A tale about yet another desperate attempt to escape the pity of war.